Uganda’s female body builders battling stigma

Uganda's female body builders battling stigma

Irene Kasuubo is one of the very few women taking the sport of body building seriously in Uganda.
But as well as lifting weights, she also needs to fight off the negative perceptions of muscular women.

People have told her that no man will ever love her, and she has lost friends due to her decision to pursue the sport.

Lady Born With Two V@ginas Recounts The Struggles That Comes With The Condition

Lady Born With Two Vagina Recounts The Struggles That Comes With The Condition

A British woman who was born with two vaginas has revealed the difficulties of the rare condition — including prolonged periods and numerous miscarriages.

Known only as Nicci, she is due to appear on the BBC3 documentary The Woman With Two sex  organ Living Differently — which will be aired across Britain later this month.

In the programme, she describes that sex:’ made her feel like ‘a freak of nature’ because men would brag about sleeping with a woman with two vaginas.

Her condition made her feel so bad that she looked into having a hysterectomy.

She first found out she had two vaginas when she was 17 years old.

“I first knew something was wrong when I was a teenager and I was bleeding more than I should.

“The pain was intolerable and, while on my period, I couldn’t function. My doctor told me I had two wombs, two vaginas and two cervixes.

“There were times when I had to wear adult nappies because tampons and pads weren’t enough.

“The condition has affected my life severely. Relationships with my friends and boyfriends especially.”

Nicci was put on hormone treatment, which proved ineffective and made her periods last up to four weeks.

She is now happily married to a man called Andy and is ready to tell her story in the documentary.

The World Health Organisation estimates around one in 3,000 women around the world are affected by the condition, which occurs when the uterus fails to fuse properly during development in the womb.

It means a woman can be born with any combination of two wombs, two separate cervixes and sometimes, two vagina

Angry man’s rant about woman breastfeeding in a pub on Mother’s Day backfires spectacularly

Angry man's rant about woman breastfeeding in a pub on Mother's Day backfires SPECTACULARLY

A disgruntled punter’s rant about a woman breastfeeding in a pub on Mother’s Day spectacularly backfired when hundreds of mums came to her defence.

Sheldon Sparks went for a drink in his local boozer and was stunned to see a newborn having his lunch at his mum’s breast.

He took to social media to vent his frustration and posted a long rant on the Facebook page BS3 Connect.

But the mothers in his neighbourhood were not best pleased – and they told him as much.

More than 300 comments of incredulity and outrage rained down on Mr Sparks within just a couple of hours – including many from irate men, too – before he deleted the post, the Bristol Post reports.

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Mr Sparks’ original post, screen-shotted in disbelief by people outraged by his rant, did admit he may be “old fashioned” but still said he thought it was “a shame” that babies are so often taken to busy pubs.

“When is it acceptable to take a five-week old baby to one of the busiest pubs in North Street, then have two large glasses of wine, and then think it is appropriate to flop a breast out in the middle of a very busy pub and so say feed it,” wrote Mr Sparks.

“Unfortunately I really don’t think there would be much milk it would be receiving, more like 14 per cent Pinot Grigio,” he added, asking whether a park would be a better place for a young mum celebrating Mother’s Day.

“I may be old fashioned, but do new born babies really need to be introduced to pubs at such an early age.

“It’s such a shame that parents nowadays think that it’s acceptable to take babies and children to pubs…maybe unaware of local green spaces like South Street Playing Fields or Greville Smyth Park even exist.

“You never know if they ventured to one of those places they may at least be able to interact with other children, and parents with other children of a similar age, and maybe get a bit of fresh air, and actually (God forbid) interact with their own child, that they have brought into this world, instead of chucking it a pram (sic) and parading around the local pubs and cafes within the area,” he added.

The post went viral on a number of mums’ internet forums in Bristol.

The responses ranged from mockery to outrage.

“Who are you to determine what is acceptable?” wrote one angry parent.

“Taking a five week old to a playing field? Interacting with other children at five weeks old? What an idiot. Also, what has breastfeeding got to do with it?

“Is the woman not allowed a glass of wine or two on Mother’s Day? If she was drinking whilst feeding it wouldn’t have even affected her milk before the baby needs another feed. Judgemental tw*t who clearly needs to get a life.”

Even after the original post was deleted, the debate continued, with people even going to the lengths of creating Sheldon breastfeeding memes, and starting new threads about the issue of breastfeeding in pubs.

Angry man's rant about woman breastfeeding in a pub on Mother's Day backfires SPECTACULARLY

Bed Tips You Should Know To Put Your Romance Back Into Top Gear

The older we get, the bolder we become in the BEDROOM as we make a determined bid to make our sxx lives sizzle in middle age, a poll has revealed.

The exclusive Mirror Survation poll, carried out over the past three days, has revealed how people in their 40s, 50s and 60s are up for anything as they try exciting new ways to spice up their sxx lives.

Of the 1,000, 40 to 70-year-olds questioned, more than a quarter had used a sex toy for the first time after turning 40.

And since turning 40, 12% had tried having sxx in a public place, while 6% had bedded a stranger whose name they didn’t even know.

Role play was something that 15% said they had tried, while 16% admitted having their first one-night stand after hitting middle age.

Here, Alix Fox – Durex’s sxx and relationships expert – reveals her TOP tips for hotting up your sxx life in middle age and beyond.

1 Be confident

                                 

If you are struggling with your self-image or feeling blue about your body, DRESSING up and experimenting with costumes can help boost how you feel about yourself, and prompt you to view your looks in a new light.

Role playing also offers a way to escape day-to-day life, so you can temporarily stop being “mum” or “the office manager” and let another part of your character come out.

2 Communicate

Good communication is the key to a great love life, but it can be really tricky to broach a conversation with your partner about sexual problems.

                                  

Try my “Care, Air, Share” technique. First, show you care about your lover’s needs and concerns. Start by telling them: “I know your job’s been keeping you really busy lately, and you’ve been stressed.”

Next, air what’s on your mind: “I’ve noticed you don’t seem so interested in sex nowadays. I’d love to enjoy more regular fun together.”

Then, invite them to share their thoughts: “What do you think? Is there a way we could work that out, or anything you’d like to try? How can I help?”

3 Flirt

Make a conscious effort to flirt and play with your partner in the daytime as well as in the evening.
                                        

If you are going out to dinner together, try making love before you leave the house instead of waiting until you get home, when you may well be exhausted/tipsy/bloated after a rich meal.

Regularly let them know that you think they look gorgeous, whether that’s first thing in the morning or when you are both chilling out on the SOFA in the evening.

4 Get in the mood

Play a naughty version of Consequences. One of you think of a location and write it down. Take turns to add details, such as props–which could be a sex toy, handcuffs or a hotel room key – positions, costumes and scenarios.

Over the day you will conjure up an X-rated bedtime story. And as you will have spent hours thinking lewd thoughts, you’ll be in the mood to get rude.

5 Experiment

Tiredness and stress can have a huge impact on our sex lives as we age. If a man is exhausted or anxious, it can be difficult for him to gain and maintain an erection.

                                   

If losing an erection is denting a man’s sexual confidence, toys such as the Durex Pleasure RINGcan offer a fantastic chemical-free helping hand.

6 Try new toys

A drop in oestrogen associated with ageing can also make women’s bodies less responsive to stimulation, which could mean arousal and orgasm take longer to achieve.

The good news is many women find they have orgasms more frequently as they mature – it just takes a little longer to get there.

Using a sex toy during foreplay and intercourse can help add that extra level of stimulation that you may find that you need in order to climax as you get older.

7 Afternoon delight

Menopausal symptoms and general ageing can have a negative impact on your emotions and confidence. Many women find that they gain weight, particularly around the middle, due to plummeting oestrogen levels. Hot flushes and night sweats can leave women feeling unattractive and in no mood for sex. If night sweats are making sex all the wrong kinds of “hot”, one solution is not to make love at night.

                                      

Try treating yourself to a bit of cheeky “afternoon delight”, or making love before you head out on a weekend date together, rather than waiting until you get home, when menopausal symptoms may be starting to kick off.

8 Treat each other

Buying new UNDERWEAR or treating your partner can help you both feel better.

9 Boost libido

For older women, hormonal changes connected to pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, the menopause and ageing can all cause their libidos to plummet drastically.

                                    

Combat any flagging sex drives by focusing on the hot spot – the clitoris, which has more than 8,000 nerve endings.

10 Don’t let menopause get in the way of sex

Skin dries as we get older and is less good at producing moisture. During the menopause, falling levels of oestrogen mean that less lubrication is produced during arousal, making sex uncomfortable.

Today’s advanced formulations of water-based lube feel really NATURAL, not icky and sticky, and some, such as Durex Play Aloe Vera, contain nourishing ingredients that can help care for sensitive skin and avoid soothe soreness.

11 Check your medications

Certain medicines can hinder your sexual response, including your desire for sex and your ability to become aroused.

If it is becoming a problem, talk to your GP about switching to a different medication with fewer sexual side effects.

12 Mix up your routine

Get yourselves out of the habit of restricting sex to a set time and place. Always the BEDROOM, and always at night, will make sex feel monotonous.

+18: Sex-techniques that trigger your spouse

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 Most times, love-making is always the key to the stablity of every marriage. Without proper attention given to it, such marriage will go-scatter. We most times ignore the importance of it and shy away from the duty call, especially the married couples. But the truth must be told and the do’s must be done so the marriage or relationship will move on smoothly.

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Below tips are the technique you should try to balance your sex-life with your partner.
1. Like yourself naked.

Women who have the best sex lives feel good about their bodies, says Joy Davidson, PhD, a sex therapist in New York City and the author of Fearless Sex. “They see themselves as strong and sexy.” Unfortunately, according to Berman, up to 80 percent of women in the United States suffer from a negative body image. “Typically, when a woman looks at herself, her eyes go straight to her problem areas,” says Berman. “She carries that feeling into the bedroom, and when her partner’s kissing her thighs, she’s busy thinking, ‘God, I’m so fat!'” To boost your body confidence, give yourself a reality check. The next time you’re at the store or in the gym, take a look around you at all the attractive women who are a variety of shapes and sizes. Remind yourself: There is no one ideal. Then ask your partner what he loves about your body, and write it down. Read the list every morning. Finally, compliment yourself. At least once a week, stand in front of the mirror naked and focus on your favorite features — your toned arms, your firm butt, your gorgeous breasts. Touch each part and say aloud what you like about it — this will help to reinforce your feelings, says Berman.

2. Make the mind-body connection.

Think about those moments in your life when you feel completely in tune with your body. Maybe it’s after you finish a long run — your blood is pumping and you’re relaxed and exhilarated. Or perhaps it’s when you do yoga and achieve a mind-body meld. Chances are, this doesn’t happen often enough. “When a woman has a negative self-image, she tends to disconnect from how her body feels,” says Berman. To reestablish the bond, do something that makes you feel good in your skin at least once a day — treat yourself to a massage, go apple picking with your kids, wear the jeans that give you an ego boost the minute you slide them on. “Whenever you’re tuned in to your body and what it’s capable of, you’re naturally more sensual,” says Davidson.

3. Swear off sex.

It’s extreme, yes, but highly effective. That’s because when you tell yourself you can’t have something, you want it even more. The same is true in the bedroom — especially if you and your partner have been together for a while and sex has become automatic. Instead of focusing on the end game, learn to enjoy the sensuality of sex. Tease yourself — and him. Get undressed, dim the lights and take turns exploring each other’s bodies. “When you’re the one doing the touching, concentrate on communicating love and sensuality to your partner,” says Berman. “When you’re on the receiving end, let yourself feel the sensations of each and every stroke. This will help you reconnect with each other on a whole new level.” Not only that but by the time you’re done, you’ll be so excited you’ll barely be able to stand it. Hold off (if you can!) for a night or two, to let the anticipation build.

4. Add a few thrills.

After a few years together, it’s easy to get lazy in bed. But you both deserve better. “If you don’t put energy into your relationship, you won’t get energy out of it,” says Davidson.

Research shows that new and adventurous activities may stimulate the brain to produce dopamine, a neurotransmitter that plays a key role in sexual desire. Do something daring outside the bedroom and dopamine levels may skyrocket — along with your sex drive. Challenge your guy to a heart-pounding activity like rock climbing or white-water rafting. “Experiencing something new and exhilarating together helps replicate that feeling you had in the beginning of your relationship when you couldn’t get enough of each other,” says Berman.

5. Tell him how to turn you on.

“Men want to be your knight in shining armor when it comes to sex — they’re eager for you to tell them what feels good,” says Berman. “The problem is, so many women are out of touch with their bodies they have no idea what to say.” Help him, and yourself, by showing him what turns you on. Put your hand on top of his and guide him in how you want to be touched — including how much pressure to use. When you’re ready to move on to oral sex, or to bring in a few sex toys, speak up. “This is the only way he’s going to know what works for you,” says Berman.

6. Change your routine.

When you’re stressed out, it’s impossible to feel sexy. That’s because when a woman experiences chronic tension, her body produces higher levels of oxytocin, a chemical that cancels out the effects of the sex hormone testosterone. As a result, your libido takes a nosedive. Recharge your sexual batteries by doing things that let you break free from your hectic everyday life, says Berman. Play a CD that reminds you of your college days and sing along. Splurge on something you’d normally never buy — like platform pumps — and wear them for a girls’ night out. When you’re relaxed and feeling good about yourself, sex will start to seem within the realm of possibility again.

7. Make the first move.

A recent study at the University of Virginia found that the leading predictor of a woman’s marital happiness was the level of her husband’s emotional engagement. If you two are spending quality time together, you’re happy. But when you’re feeling disconnected, your relationship and your sex life suffer. Here’s why: You need to feel close to him to be inspired to make love, and he often needs sex to feel close to you, explains Berman. How to break the stalemate? Make the first move, says Berman. “Do something simple like thanking him for taking out the trash. When you give him a little gratitude, it’s a huge bonding moment for him.” In response, he’ll start tuning back in to what you need, and you’ll be much more likely to want him in return.

8. Turn chores into foreplay.

Even in this enlightened age, women still spend about an hour more each day than men on household chores and childcare. No wonder we’re not in the mood — we’re tired! Research at the University of Washington shows that when men pitch in around the house, their wives are much more likely to be satisfied with the relationship and to want more sex. “All he needs to hear is that helping out is a form of foreplay,” says Berman. The next thing you know, he’ll be pushing past you to wipe the counter, change the kitty litter, and unload the dishwasher.

9. Leave your house.

You know it’s good to escape — from work, the kids, the dust bunnies — and concentrate on each other. If you can’t head off for the weekend, go out to dinner instead. But mix it up a little: Pick a place you’ve never been and order a dish you’ve never had. Better yet, visit him at work. Seeing him in a place that doesn’t have anything to do with you will reveal a different side of him and reconnect you with the person you fell in love with. “You might see or learn something surprising that makes you view him in a sexier way,” says Berman.

10. The secret to the best sex ever…

If you need another reason to exercise, consider this: Working out is a great way to boost your sex life. “It stimulates not only the body but the nervous system and the brain,” says Davidson. “So you’re more physiologically excited and more receptive to sex.” Exercise strengthens your cardiovascular system, improves circulation, and gets blood flowing to all the right places. It also gets you in the mood by reducing stress and boosting your self-esteem. Working out gives you a sense of pride and accomplishment, says Berman. “When you do it consistently, it makes you feel good about yourself.”

Just as important, exercise helps you tune in to your body — and tune out the world. Weight training and Pilates, which force you to focus on your muscles and your form, are especially good for this. “Your attention is fully on you,” says Davidson. “You really feel every move, and that puts you in a more sensual state.”

Source: fitnessmagazine

Major pregnancy signs at two weeks

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First signs of pregnancy come after 1 or 2 weeks conception. Can a woman feel anything? Most gynecologists say that it is impossible to understand at this whether a lady is pregnant or not. However, many experienced mothers have proven that maternal intuition is not a test, and the correct diagnosis is visual. What changes and signs can speak about coming motherhood?

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In this case, we mean any groundless typical female feelings like resentment for no reason and scandals, dissatisfaction with her reflection in the mirror or other. In general, these first signs of 2-week pregnancy are very similar to the symptoms of premenstrual syndrome, also caused by hormonal changes in the body. So if you get PMS, then this sign is nothing to speak about.

Strengthening the appetite

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In order the baby to be well and quickly developed and born healthy, the mother must eat a healthy food. Nature itself takes care of the continuation of the human race and the birth of the healthy individuals, so the woman’s body casually suggests that it’s time to change your diet.


Changing taste preferences

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